How to make black friends #1

So I've decided to use this blog primarily to express my random thoughts. This is vitally important because I have more random thoughts than normal ones.

So at IV's leaders retreat we were talking about cross-cultural relationships and one of the leaders expressed her frustration with trying to make friends from a different culture (specifically referencing black ppl). Her issue was that she comes from a completely homgenous background and thus has no clue what to do/say. I'm of the opinion that if you are genuine and really want to invest in someone then no matter what your background most sane ppl will be receptive to that.

But I was thinking about it more and I think that hair is actually responsible for 80% of conflict between black people and white people. So here's a secret for people seeking to make black friends no matter how much you want to....never ever ever ever ever ever ever touch a black person's hair.

The more that I thought about this hair thing, the more I am convinced that it is true. The reason behind it is that black people never touch other black people's hair unless they are styling it. I cannot think of any exception. This fact sets the perfect stage for conflict because black people hair is so noticeably different from white people hair which makes them want to touch it. Today I was at the Greenfield Intercultural center and I watched this rabbi tousle this black woman's hair. It was meant to be friendly but me and my friend both immediately said "uh oh" and the woman was clearly bothered. Oh well....

I'd be curious to know what the white people equivalent is to this. I'm guessing being late haha